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Testing, testing. Is this working? I've never sent a message this way before.

If it's working, I have a few questions.

Do you think it's possible for a long-distance relationship to work? Or, if it's possible for any relationship to work, when you think the other person doesn't feel the same way? Or is that selfish, wanting someone to see you that way when they don't?

Is that really the right thing to want?

[A few minutes after posting, she's going to try and delete it, but she's isn't good enough with technology to do so. There might be some keysmashes.]

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Long distance relationships are dangerous! Especially when the saying goes 'Different postal code, different girl/guy'.

No, I've never heard that saying. What exactly does that mean?

Edited 2012-09-20 05:50 (UTC)

It means they could have multiple girlfriends or boyfriends and you would never know.

She would never do that!

How certain are you of that?

I'm certain! I'm very certain! There isn't anyone she likes in that way.

You should still be careful about those kind of things!

I believe that it is entirely possible for a long-distance relationship to work. However, changing another's heart is a different matter. It is my opinion that a relationship where one's heart does not beat as one with the other will ultimately fade away.

That it not to say that it is impossible for their feelings to change, but it is a hard and long process. It is impossible for someone to feel something that they do not believe in, even if it would be for the sake of something or someone they care about.

As for whether it is right to want, there is no 'right.' This wish is one etched into human nature. It may cause us pain and worry, but ultimately, applying the concepts of right and wrong to it will only cause more. The only advice I can offer is to listen to truly listen to your heart, for it is the one who will guide you on the path least treacherous.

From what I can understand, from what you're saying, if things continue as they are, then whatever we have now will just...stop? And because they don't feel the same way, or believe in me, then...

It's impossible, you think? When you put it that way, it might be better for those feelings to fade. I think it might be wrong of me to pester her, but I'm only trying to help! I can't just listen to my heart, as much as I want to. My head, my thoughts, are still a part of me. "Is this wrong?" "Is that right?" I can't stop thinking about things like that.

As for the "least treacherous path"... If I were to tell the truth, the path is already treacherous enough as it is. No, rather, the person in question is a bit treacherous herself.

Edited 2012-09-20 06:09 (UTC)

Not necessarily that they should stop, but rather, that they should subside. "Stop" is a bit too harsh of a word for my liking, and a lack of relationship does not mean a lack of friendship.

However, I'm a bit concerned that you would describe the person themselves as treacherous. If I may ask, how do you mean?

...I think for now, I should respect her privacy. If she ever comes here, she can tell you herself.

But I can say this. She isn't that bad of a person, she really isn't. It's just...circumstances, make her the way she is. I think I'd be satisfied with just friendship, if only I could stop worrying. For some reason, though, that's the hardest thing of all to do.

I see. I was concerned that they may be here, which worried me. Even if I do not have a name or face to go with you, my friend, I am concerned for any that would describe a partner as treacherous, you see. But this concern aside, I do understand this, and I also ask you to understand that I do not pass any judgement upon her. I do not know her, so it is not my right to do so.

But relationships are... difficult. It is a generic word to use, and one that seems non-descriptive, but it is also the truest. I myself have recently begun a relationship with someone, and the path is an uncertain one. As such, I do not think you should feel you should stop worrying, for worrying about your other is in the very nature of a relationship. Even if the feelings are not returned, yours are still there, and will likely always be there in some form.

Regardless, I do wish the best for you.

...Yes. I think I do understand, what you're saying. Thank you, for the advice.

...If you don't mind me asking, can I have your name?

Not at all. My name is Diana.

Diana-san, then. Thank you, again.

[She hesitates. She'll probably regret this, but...]

I'm Nanako.

You are welcome, Nanako. And thank you for giving me your name—I am honored by your trust.

If you should ever wish to speak on any matter, please feel free to talk with me as you are comfortable. I will always listen.

It doesn't matter if it's selfish or not. You can't help wanting it.

But that--

Feeling that way for another person shouldn't be... It shouldn't just be someone forcing their feelings on someone else.

Otherwise, I would just be bothering her, and I don't want that. The last thing I want to do is cause more trouble for her, or to be seen as a meddler, or a nuisance.

Edited 2012-09-21 22:39 (UTC)

No, you're right, you shouldn't do anything about it. If they don't feel the same way, all you can do is try to move on.

But you can't help those feelings, no matter how wrong they might feel.

Is it forcing her? Even if I don't mean to, by looking after her, and writing to her, does that come across as trying to force her to answer?

I can't move on. Not now, at least. I don't even want to think about it!

Although, as much as I'd like her to think of me, I'd like her to think about herself, first.

Edited 2012-09-22 03:37 (UTC)

You don't? But doesn't it hurt?

I don't think that much is bad, though. Friends do that much all the time. That's just being kind.

I'd be lying if I said it didn't. No, how can something like this not hurt? You'd have to have no feelings at all, if it didn't.

But if I were to stop associating with her, I think it would hurt much, much more to think of her all alone. I don't know if we have a special connection or not. I don't even know what she's thinking, most days. Of course it's frustrating, and even unbearable.

But it's better to try and be there for her, if she ever needs me. Even if it's all futile, or even if she resents me for it.

One day, she may tell me what I mean to her, and I think that might be enough when that time comes.

I

I understand.

Sometimes I wonder if people like us are just meant to feel pain for how we are. But we're just doing what we feel is right. It seems so unfair.

A lot of things aren't fair. I don't really understand it myself.

Maybe it's the world's way of telling us to worry about ourselves instead of others. I certainly get told that enough.

I think that a long-distance relationship might work! All that matters is if both of you want to keep it going!

But...no, I don't think it's selfish. You love that person so you just can't help it. That is how love goes right?

If it was mutual, then I do think it could work... But, I think I'm the only one who wants to keep it going, if you can even call something like this to be a "relationship".

I can't help thinking that I probably sound presumptuous. If I could help it, things would be so much easier.

Hm...have you talked to this other person about this? If you do, it might be able to figure something out!

No, not...not yet. I haven't even told her.

Don't think you should? Hm...or maybe she isn't here?

Oh, I know! Maybe you can write a letter or something if she does ever come here! That way you know what to talk about!

Do you think that would work? I like writing letters a lot more than telephones or these bracelets, and I have a penpal at home, but writing a letter to her is different.

But I think I'll try it.

You never know until you try! But I wish you luck on whatever happens!

Oh, I can help you start on the letter! Hm...oh, I know! You can probably give it to her through her mailbox instead of giving it to her in person!

I think it's better if I deliver it myself, the next time I see her. I wouldn't want her to mistake it for garbage.

If you say so...

So do you have any idea on what to write to her?

Nothing too special. I want to make sure she's in good health, so of course, I have to ask her about that. I can tell her everything that's going on here, and maybe send along a little present in the envelope.

Oh? You can send her a little doll or a picture of an apple to wish her good health!

Or maybe a bunch of fruits around the apple too!

No, no dolls. She already has one, and think she's happy with just one.

I do like the idea of packing her fruit, though. Maybe dried, if she doesn't open the package immediately, so it won't spoil.

That's off to a great start!

And if we can find out a way on how to remember to do that when we get back...

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